Apr
18
2012

I want to run; I want to hide; I want to tear down the walls that hold me inside. I want to reach out and touch the flame where the streets have no name. U2

I am not eccentric. It’s just that I am more alive than most people. I am an unpopular electric eel set in a pond of goldfish. Edith Sitwel

The end goal of every Christian is to develop a friendship with God. One single passage in Scripture is at the heart of this blog.


I’m no longer calling you servants because servants don’t understand what their master is thinking and planning. No, I’ve named you friends because I’ve let you in on everything I’ve heard from the Father. (John 15:15)

Jesus unmistakably points to the best way to have a relationship with him—in friendship. You find it all in this verse. The question for us is this—how do we get there? In observing it in my own life, I saw that I went through a transformation. I didn’t just immediately become friends with God; it culminated, progressed and continues to grow.

By examining your own life, you can find out where you are in your journey with him. I think that this is important for many reasons. First, most importantly, it is imperative that we really assess where we are in our life as related to him. It does no good for us to keep on walking past the mirror and not truly looking into it and seeing what really is in the reflection, whether it is good or not so good. Everything about your life hinges on your relationship with God and so wherever you are in your relationship with him, it’s important for you to know in which direction you are moving. We all could say we want something more, something better, but we will never get there, unless we acknowledge where we really are. He also wants more, something better for us.

A friendship with God is obviously where we want to end up, but there were two previous stages in my journey. The first is where it all began. I first became a believer in God. Nothing more, nothing less. This was a period in my life in which Jesus was important in my life and sometimes he wasn’t. This was a time in my life in which my relationship with God wasn’t very personal and it wasn’t very passionate or motivated. During that time in my life, I had some very normal, but also some very unique things happen to me which God used to push me along, attempting to draw me further into relationship with him. I will share some of those stories with you so that perhaps in my story you will see your own. One of those experiences was a three-day trip to Toronto. This is when God intervened jealously, and basically challenged me to put up or shut up. That’s when I decided that to be a servant, a learner; a follower of Jesus was of all-importance and was where I needed to go. The Scriptures speak often to the point that God gets envious for his children and in my own life, he was single-minded about me. At that time, he voiced loudly and clearly that he wanted all of my life or nothing of it. To that point, at different times in my life, he would grab me by the shirt and pull me in the direction of his choosing. Obviously in these moments, this wasn’t always easy or enjoyable. But it was good, because where I was headed was not a place that I would want to end up and he knew that.

In years following this period of my life, I learned how to be a follower and servant, attempting every day to let him have run of my life. But this was not the end. Even this had its obstacles and problems, and God began to draw them out. The two areas which were hindering me was my own personal healing and connected to this, genuinely knowing his grace and forgiveness in my life. Down into my very soul, he showed me that while I maybe was able to mouth the words Amazing Grace, I really wasn’t singing them. Jesus in his own way was saying to me, I know longer wish to call you a servant—I have something better for you. Will you still follow now? Some years later, I slowly began to learn that being friends with God was entirely different than just being his servant. This inevitably brought me into a unique friendship with him. Again, later in these writings, I will share how this happened for me and how you too maybe need to take that journey as well.

The age-old question that always gets asked at some point or another is this –who am I? When one becomes a friend of Jesus, one begins to ask a better question. It’s not necessary to ask who I am from my own perspective—the best question is—who does God say that I am. It’s an easy thing to know who we are; it’s a much different thing to know who we should be. You will never really know who you are until you realize where you belong and the most important place where you belong is in a friendship with God. Giving yourself over to this will lead you into a wild and wonderful relationship with a Father who has something up his sleeve for your life.



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