The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” In other words, a sex addict will continue to engage in certain sexual behaviors despite facing potential health risks, financial problems, shattered relationships or even arrest.

While there is no official diagnosis for sex addiction, clinicians and researchers have attempted to define the disorder using criteria based on chemical dependency literature. They include:

  • Frequently engaging in more sex and with more partners than intended.
  • Being preoccupied with or persistently craving sex; wanting to cut down and unsuccessfully attempting to limit sexual activity.
  • Thinking of sex to the detriment of other activities or continually engaging in excessive sexual practices despite a desire to stop.
  • Spending considerable time in activities related to sex, such as cruising for partners or spending hours online visiting pornographic Web sites.
  • Neglecting obligations such as work, school or family in pursuit of sex.
  • Continually engaging in the sexual behavior despite negative consequences, such as broken relationships or potential health risks.
  • Escalating scope or frequency of sexual activity to achieve the desired effect, such as more frequent visits to prostitutes or more sex partners.
  • Feeling irritable when unable to engage in the desired behavior.

My specialty in working with clients is with sexual addiction and with sexual problems in their relationships. I have published research in this area and have worked with many men and women who either struggle in this area or have been impacted by a loved one with a sexual addiction. Below are some of the areas that I specialize:

  • Compulsive sexual behavior (e.g., phone sex, cyber sex, active unhealthy sexual relationships, etc.)
  • Addiction to pornography
  • Legal issues with regard to sexual addiction
  • Sexual problems in marriage or relationships (e.g., concerns with sexual desire and functioning , sexual pain, etc.)
  • Healing for sexual abuse
  • Sexual anorexia (avoiding healthy sexual relationships)

If you want more information about online counseling, feel free to contact me with your questions and a fee schedule.