Mar
09
2011

A couple of good quotes on parenting from Henry Cloud and John Townsend’s Boundaries with Kids. I am sometimes asked for a recommendation for a good book on parenting. This is a good place to start.

Training moments occur when both parents and children do their jobs. The parent’s job is to make the rule. The child’s job is to break the rule. The parent then corrects and disciplines. The child breaks the rule again, and the parent manages the consequences and empathy that then turn the rule into reality and internal structure for the child.

Don’t go overboard in praising required behavior: ‘We have only done our duty’ (Luke 17:10). But do go overboard when your child confesses the truth, repents honestly, takes chances, and loves openly. Praise the developing character in your child as it emerges in active, loving, responsible behavior.

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

 


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